Why Is The Best Part of The Church Service Greeting Each Other?, by Aaron

It is Sunday morning, and they walk into the beautiful church building with one kid hanging off of each of their arms and another one running to get to their classroom as service is just beginning. The parents drop off each child into their correct classroom. By the time all of their children are finally in their rooms (sometimes screaming like crazy), the worship team has already started their first of four songs for the morning. The two parents are a little angry, flushed, and trying to prepare their hearts for worship while the first song has just ended. By the last song the parents have finally calmed themselves down and are able to relax a little while they sit for the sermon. This is a story about my wife, my kids, and myself, and this happened for many years every Sunday morning. Does this sound familiar to anyone at all?

After the worship leader ends his final song, an elder or the pastor comes on to the stage to pray. After the prayer, they tell the congregation to “turn around and greet the people behind you”. Each different church congregation performs this slightly differently each week. Sometimes this request to greet others is at the beginning of the service, after worship, and sometimes it is at the end of service. I’ve been to many services and almost all of them have this request to greet each other.

What I am about to articulate in these next few paragraphs is something that I have been thinking about for months and years honestly. What I am going to discuss is not meant to judge or point the finger at anyone or group of people. This is something I feel God wants me to try to articulate for others and really myself. I think I have been avoiding it for a long time. I am hoping that as I write this, that you as a member of the body of Christ will start to ask yourself, why? Why do we do what we do as a “church”?

So let’s go back to the service I started to describe at the beginning. After we are asked to greet those behind us, I want to describe what I have seen for many years. Immediately a smile flows across everyone’s face and things get lively. People run across the room to give Aunt Betty and Uncle Jim a hug. People are laughing and quickly asking how each other’s week has been. People are greeting visitors of the church and even greeting members of the church that they don’t talk too much or haven’t even met. Then after about two or three minutes something happens. Things get serious!! Silence occurs, you could hear a pin drop in the room. Most people lose their smiles, laughing stops, and they put on their thinking and "spiritual hats" as the pastor begins the sermon for 30 to 45 minutes (give or take).

Two questions: 1. does this scene sound a little off to you? 2. Is this what God intends when we gather together as a body? If the answer is yes to those to questions, then I am truly happy for you. I want you to be blessed and I pray God is working in your heart. Unfortunately for me, this scene is so familiar and for many years I’ve ignored how I’ve felt. But for some reason the Holy Spirit keeps nudging me (I need to listen to Him more). What if a typical Sunday gathering was just “greeting the person behind you”? What would that service look like? I believe it would like a lot like 1 Corinthians 14:26 which reads: What then shall we say, brothers and sisters? When you come together, each of you has a hymn, or a word of instruction, a revelation, a tongue or an interpretation. Everything must be done so that the church may be built up.

Let me create a fictional scene for you! You are at church and someone on stage tells you to turn around and greet the people behind you after worship. You and three other people from your row turn around and start up a conversation with the four people behind you. As you are talking to each other, you find out that one of the couples is having a really hard time with paying the bills the past two months. The Holy Spirit wants you to pray for that couple and the Spirit leads you in a prayer. After that prayer, the Holy Spirit begins working in another person in that group and he tells the group that he has been dealing with lust recently and would really appreciate prayer. So the group begins to pray, but the lights begin to dim and the sermon is starting so everyone sits down. That person needs prayer and the Holy Spirit is leading that part of the church body to pray, but it won’t happen. Why? Because we have to follow the order of the service, even if the Holy Spirit is leading us in a different path that day.

Over the past few months I have been reading about members of the body of Christ that meet like they did in the book of Acts (Acts 2:42-47). The gathering of believers is very different from what we as a body of believers are used to. I am a part of a group that meets online each week and talks about how God is working in our life. We pray for each other, we discuss versus God has put on our heart, sometimes we sing together. Really anything the Holy Spirit has put on our heart to share, the floor is open to anyone. No sermon, no worship service, no church building, just Jesus. I know this may be hard to understand and probably will be confusing. So what am I saying to you as the reader? Start asking God how you can join Him in His work? Let’s just start somewhere. If you feeling like nothing is wrong, then like I said earlier, I am truly happy for you and pray God keeps working in your life and in your congregation. But if you are searching, I would say to first, not ignore it and second to begin searching.

Two very good books I read recently Letter’s to the Church by Francis Chan and Finding Church by Wayne Jacobsen (no they are not paying me). Both of these books are great resources and have a lot of scripture and references that talk about the New Testament Church and how church may look different under the headship of Christ. I’m going to write more about this in my next couple of blogs. As I hear more from the Father, I will write down what I am hearing from the Holy Spirit and what I am learning as I study the Word more. I believe that the Lord is working in the church and he loves his people so deeply and will always respond to them as they call upon his name. Let’s search him out on the subject of the church though. Let’s start loving each other in a different way. Let’s start looking for the work of the Lord whole heartedly. The Lord loves the church so much; and No, I’m not talking about a Building!!
God bless!
Aaron